SMART Goals - Part 4

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Next in my little write up is R.

R stands for Responsibility, Realistic

For your goals to happen you have to become responsible for them. You have to be the one to show up and do something towards your goal. Others may and will help you achieve your goal, yet you have to show up for them to help you. Your goal will come about because of your thought, feelings, actions and behaviours. It really is that simple.

Take a step back and look at all the times you did not achieve something. No matter what the reason why you did not achieve it. Who is always present in the goal process? Who is the person working or not towards your goals. YOU!

It isn't always going to be easy to take 100% responsibility for your goals and results. Sometimes, it is just easier to blame somebody else. Yet, the common denominator is you!  Taking responsibility maybe uncomfortable. It may mean going outside your comfort zone, hearing and doing things you don't want to do. Yet I've found once I started to do the things that I feared, the fear disappeared or lessened and my goal was a step closer.

Realistic

I have a bug bare with this point. Who decides what is or is not realistic for you? Your friends and family most likely will try and tell you what they think is realistic for you in their eyes. Yet, they are also the people who will try and keep you where you are.  What maybe realistic for you today, is not going to be realistic for your tomorrow.

All I say is this, If you think you think your goal is realistic, you're thinking too small. You boundaries can change by reading about somebody who has done what you have done. Writing out 100 reasons why you want X.  Using techniques to clear limiting decision and negative emotions, as here with EFT, NLP, Hypnosis and others.


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part 3 here, part 2 here, part 1 here

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I just found this after updating my USB drive software from portableapps.com . Hey it is Friday after all.


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SMART Goals - Part 3

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A stands for As if now, All Areas of Life, Achievable and Action

As If ... this is very simple. If you had the goal right now, what would you be doing, saying, thinking and feeling? When you write out your goals you must write them in the present tense, i.e as if now

I have
I am now
I feel

This I also find very useful for taking what are called action steps. If you knew without any shadow of a doubt, what would you not be acting differently?

OK suppose your goal is to have a brand new Mercedes Black Convertible.

You would write it out as :

It is now December 6th 2008 .I own my own new Black SLR McLaren Mercedes Convertible. It has leather seats. The roof folds back, quickly and easily. I am cocooned in totally safety. I feel the leather steering wheel in my hands. I grip the wheel with a great feeling of confidence. I feel the confidence grow and expand from my chest to all parts of my body. As I drive I feel the wind stroke my hair, the sunshine shining and warming my face. It has a Bosé sound system, I hear my favourite band, Counting Crows all around me. The drive is smooth and comfortable. I am driving down a country lane. The tress and hedges whizz past me. Flashes of sunlight breakthrough the trees and leaves. The car was easy , quick and an absolute joy to find and purchase etc.

When writing you want to invoke as many of your senses as possible. I see, I hear, I feel, I smell, I taste., I know the last sentence is actually in the past tense..the car was.. I've included that so that my mind knows how I want the process to be finding and buying my car. I also add the date at the begin so I have a deadline for my goal. Deadlines are allowed to change. Putting a date also keeps the writing in the present. That way you're not writing I will...future tense. The future will always be the future.

All Areas of Life

You must have goals in all areas of life. By having goals in all areas of your life. You and your goals remain in balance. The larger life areas are relationships, personal development, family, business and career, spirituality, health and fitness. There are other areas too. Yet you can normally find that a smaller goal will fit into a larger goal area.

Achievable

What I think is achievable is totally up to you. The naysayers will often tell you to be realistic. This for me is them just keeping you down at their level of goal achievement. All goals are achievable. It may mean you need the help of others to learn new skills etc, but all things being equal any goal can be got. Others would say they need to be realistic. Normally goals aren't achieved because of beliefs, either personal or social. Sometimes a goal will not be achieved because physically you can't. After all, I am not going to win Wimbledon Tennis Championship. 1. I don't play tennis, 2. I don't practice tennis. 3. Physically I'm not up to playing against the best. Yet I can certain improve my game by taking lessons, modelling how the best players play. By doing that, I will improve my tennis game.

If you don't think a goal is possible why? Most likely you have a belief that it can't be done. Remove it, let it go. Most goals have already been achieved by somebody else. Find out how they did it.

Action

You must be the main catalyst for your goal. Others may help you, but you must be the one in control of the process. The goal must fit within all areas of your life. If not, why not? If the goal is harmful to others and yourself, you'll have a much harder time achieving it.

Taking action towards your goal is a must. Remember this any action you do, is leading you towards your goal! Some goals do just happen. Yet if you take action towards your goal what are you doing? You telling yourself and the universe that the goal is achievable! If you knew 100% the goal was going to happen how would you act, what would you do, where would you go?

Taking action doesn't have to be a show stopper piece. You just need to do something. If you're buying a new car what do you need to do?

1. Decide which car you want
2. Buy some magazines
3. Put a picture on your vision board
4. Go to a dealership
5. Take a test drive
6. Arrange finance or buy with cash
7. Drive away happy with the keys.

You see you can do many things towards your goal The big actions steps are actually many small steps put together. Decide on some action that real stretches you.

i.e Buying a new flat

small step : make up a house warming music party list
bigger step : pack bags ready to leave!


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